This book on “Highly Effective People” is a great influential and probably the good book of the 20th century by Stephen Covey. It was the best-selling novel of the time and there’s an absolute business classic.
It’s based on three ideas
- Paradigm Shifting
- Achieving interdependence
- Developing Habits
A paradigm is set of the beliefs which color our views. The reader shifts their worldview by a 7-step procedure of change. Effective people move through seven steps from dependence towards not depending on anyone & then to being interdependence.
Habit One, Be Proactive:
Being proactive is about being accepting you are responsible for your actions and for your current circumstances that mean that being human everybody should be in control for their activities. Instead of reproachful others for conditions or circumstances, we should be responsible for her actions. For instance, I was woken up late at around 9 a.m., many times despite setting alarms at 7 am. Whenever I woke up on nine o clock, I make excuses that my entire days wasted or I’m most productive in the mornings. And it’s too late to work now.
The day’s half gone. I blame my grandma for not waking me up on time. I get frustrated, I get angry but I didn’t get up on time because I slept late into the night. And I’m not taking the responsibility of my decision that I made yesterday of gonna bed late. Instead, I am blaming other because it is too much easy to blame others like I am blaming my grandma for this situation. But the reality is we should all take the responsibility of our current life situation.
You may control this particular situation but you may never control others. We can decide what will be our response, control our lives, and influence our circumstances. Your actions may be controlled completely but you don’t get to pick the outcomes of those actions. You’ve to accept all those that you could control & be happy with them and you should focus on those things that you can.
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Habit Two, Is to know the end that you want:
It means that you visualize what will be your accomplishments. Almost all the world-class athletes are visualizers. They see it, they feel it, they experienced it before they do it. They know the end in their mind.
Here’s a quote by “Arnold Schwarzenegger”
He said in his mind he visualizes his muscles as mountains and he visualizes himself of lifting very heavy weight to gain those mountain muscles.
He always visualizes this because this will influence him in doing the work, he has to do to gain the mountain muscles.
You actually know everything is created twice if you’ve seen a house being built you know that an architect starts with the blueprint of the house. Before even touching the earth, he starts with the design and the render of the house. He already knows how the house is gonna look in the end because the architect creates a computer rendering of the house. In short, “Have a Clear Vision of What You Wanna Accomplish!”
Habit Three: All the things can be divided into four activities that we have every day:
Quadrant 1: These all happenings are much important & urgent like a project that’s due this week or an urgent call from your boss.
Quadrant 2: These all happenings are needed to be done but are not urgent. Like if you’re taking courses online or reading self-improvement books.
Quadrant 3: These activities like when your friend is calling you are urgent but they’re not very important.
Quadrant 4: These all activities aren’t much important & not urgent at all. There are things for leisure like watching TV or checking Facebook.
You’ve to avoid no 3 and 4 & you’ve to be in the no 2 as much as possible for the reason that these are things that are very important and these cannot be left because of other two.
Habit Four, Think Win-Win:
So, a few weeks ago, I had an argument with my mom about going to college. She tells me that I need to attend college to get the job. But the problem is I don’t wanna go because I wanted a job as an Android developer. And if I had many apps from Play Store & write consistently on Android topics that I would be fine without a degree.
We actually had the nasty argument but then instead of me compromising or she compromising we created an alternative solution. I would go towards college and I can drop off when I get a high-paying job. Habit 4 is about thinking win-win for both parties. You don’t accept lose-win in situations like you lost and another person wins. You don’t accept win-lose situations where you win because of the expanse of another person’s loss. So, you create a true win-win situation for another person. you need to have the mentality that and will be willing for everyone to share.
Our schools are designed for win-lose situations like all of us get happy when another person receives a lower grade in school. But when someone scores are greater than us, we got jealous from the inside.
Habit Five, First you’ve to understand then you should demand to be understood:
Most people listen one of four levels:
- Level One is where you ignore another person and you’re not listening at all. You like your world.
- Level Two is where you pretend that you’re listening by saying yeah, hahaha, right.
- And Level Three is selective listening where you hear only selective conversation while ignoring the rest.
- Level Four is attentive listening where you focus your energy on words.
- Level Five will be the last form listening which is emphatic listening.
Usually, when we listen we either agree or disagree, we asked questions, represent our life experiences on own autobiography or we evaluate. Emphatic listening involves putting on another person’s lens. You try to experience what next person is feeling. If he or she’s in pain, you sense that pain you connect with another person’s heart.
Habit six, Synergize:
It builds upon habits four and five. When you start to understand other people first and is in win-win situation, you cooperate with other person & work together. Synergize means all is good than the part of whole. Synergy requires you to value the alterations of other people. You observe the world from your point of view not the way the world is.
Habit Seven, Sharpen the Saw:
It deals with 4 areas of life
- Physical: which involves eating right varieties of food, exercising & take care of your body.
- Mental: which involves decreasing the time of television you watch and developing brain. It involves continuous education, taking online courses, reading books, and continuously improving your knowledge.
- Spiritual: which is personal way of your life it’s your core your Center. It involves practicing habit to recommit to your purpose daily.
- Social/Emotional: which involves habits 4, 5, & 6. Where you practice creative cooperation, emphatic communication and finding win-win situations.
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